Emotionally bruised and battered (as divorce tends to bring out the worst in people) I decided to cancel my birthday. My parents protested, telling me not to "let him win" and refused to let me wallow. But it didn't matter. I was miserable. For every birthday wish I received, I thanked them and asked them to hold the wishes for next year, when I would resume celebrating. To make matters worse, I could not escape my soon-to-be-ex's repeated attempts to contact me, presumably to wish me a happy birthday, but succeeding in evoking only crying fits of rage. Despite my attempts at cancellation, I went out for a wonderful birthday dinner with my parents followed by a couple
This year is different. I am independent and happy and have the world at my feet. While I'm still not keen on getting closer to 30 (today is my 28th birthday), I could not wish for more at this moment in life. I spent last weekend with my parents, brother, sister-in-law and nephew in New York City followed by dinner at our favorite restaurant, Victor's Cafe to celebrate mine and my sister-in-law's birthdays (hers was June 29th). I'm very lucky to have such a wonderful and supportive family. I cannot express the gratitude I have for the support and love they've given me during my life, especially within the past year. Knowing that no matter what happens, we're always there for each other, is priceless. When we're together, the love in the room is palpable and the laughter is plentiful.
|Birthday dinner with family|
I have amazing friends. The kind of friends who have their babies FaceTime at 9am me to squeal while they sing me "Happy Birthday" and send me gag and housewarming gifts that show they're always thinking of me. Friends who, despite working 80 hour weeks at their dreaded law firms during a holiday week, still manage to email me birthday wishes. Friends who insist on me coming down to the Jersey shore to fist pump with the guidos. Friends who will likely send me some dick pics just to make me laugh (I'm counting on you BK!). A friend who I care for in a more romantic way who, despite only knowing me for a short time, planned an entire adventure day because he knows that I'd rather have a fun memory than an expensive gift.
|Hilarious gag gift|